FIVE SIGNS IT'S TIME TO BREAK UP WITH HIM/HER

      When should I breakup with my 
             boyfriend/girlfriend?

Relationships are meant to bring happiness and comfort. People go into love relationships because they want to share their feelings, joys and pains with someone whom they adore. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is someone you cherish and genuinely love being with.

Unfortunately, most times, things do not work out the way they should in a relationship. Mistakes are made and things go wrong. Still, you do not have to kill yourself as it’s not the end of the world for you. Give out love wholeheartedly but remember to save some for yourself.

Remember this, if you do not love and care about yourself then you cannot love and care for someone else. When you are not happy, you cannot give away happiness.

An unhealthy relationship is never worth it. If your partner is the reason you are in misery then the relationship is not healthy anymore. It has become bad for you and can go along way to ruin your entire life.

If any of the five attitudes below are found in your partner, and after you confront them about it, they are non-repentant, then you should consider letting the person go for the sake of your own happiness.

When you get the hint that your relationship is falling apart, watch out for these five signs. If any or all is found in your relationship, then it’s a sign that the relationship is unhealthy for you. Therefore, you should not waste your time on such relationships.
The five signs are:

  1. There is no harmony in future plans:
    It might be that both your plans for life doesn’t seem to rhyme and you are not present in the other person’s future. Let’s say when you talk about your plans for the future, your partner seems to avoid the topic or does not agree or acknowledge your dreams for a future together. It might be that he/she is not into you anymore but doesn’t want to say it. A relationship without one mind is not healthy.

  2. A low self-esteemed partner:
    A person who does not accept you for who you are. A person that tries to clone you to become someone else. A person who ridicules and brings you down is not good for you. Your self-esteem and self-confidence are very important. A person who loves you shouldn’t do any of these to you. Your partner should be someone that boosts your self-confidence and encourages you not someone that makes you feel small. Making another person feel small is a character of those that have low self-esteem themselves. They derive their drive from pulling others down to make themselves feel good. People like this cannot make great partners.

  3. Your happiness is on the line:
    A relationship where you cry more than you smile. One where your worries are greater than your peace of mind. One where you fight more than you are in peace. Don’t compromise your happiness for someone else. Not every misunderstanding should end in a fight. Also the sacrifices made for the sake of the relationship should not stand in the way of your joy. A happy relationship is a healthy one.

  4. A dominating partner:
    Love and relationships should be a mutual alliance. Don’t endure a relationship where you are being suppressed. Where opinions are not valued. Where you are always asked to lie low and can’t express your true self. Love does not dominate. If you are always kept in the background and most times almost insignificant in his/her life, it is a warning sign for you to leave. No joy comes from being dominated by another person. A dominating partner cannot see the need to listen to you as he believes you have nothing to offer. He/she believes his/her decision should never be challenged. A dominating partner is not a loving partner.

  5. Lack of Care and attention:
    When your partner doesn’t care for you and pays you no attention, it is a good sign that you should let go. A selfish partner is not worth having. Every human being desires to be loved and cared for. A partner who does not care for you does not value you. No matter how busy he/she is, making out time to be with you should be important to them. You should always be a priority to him/her and not an option. If you are in a relationship where your partner keeps making excuses to spend time with you, it is a sign that he/she is not really interested in you. The one who loves you will always make out time for you.

Staying in the relationship after all these signs are evident in your relationship should be after talking with your partner and they agree to change for the betterment of the relationship. Otherwise, it’s time to love yourself more and walk away. When your boyfriend/girlfriend portrays any of these attitudes detrimental to your relationship then it’s time to breakup.